My family’s life changed 17 years ago, when my mother suffered a massive stroke that left her with debilitating effects. My sisters and I rallied around her to provide the care she needed. One of my sisters, in particular, looked after our mom at home for several years, before making the tough choice to place her in a nursing home. I remember feeling a sense of unease when my sister called to share the news. There’s a certain comfort that comes with knowing a loved one is being cared for by family.
At that time, I wasn’t in a position to care for my mom at home. It’s a huge decision, and one that requires a lot of preparation. But I knew that one day, I would bring my mother home. I couldn’t bear the thought of her living the rest of her life in a nursing home, especially after the pandemic hit and we were restricted to FaceTime and weekly window visits for a year. It was a tough time for all of us. Eventually, I made the decision to bring my mom home and provide her with the quality care she deserved.
I cherish the idea of waking up every day to see my mother. Before her stroke, we were very close and spent a lot of time together. However, being a full-time caregiver is challenging and overwhelming at times. That is why I rely on mindfulness practices like yoga, meditation, deep breathing, and journaling to cope with the stress.
To prevent burnout, I have found that utilizing respite care is essential. Although it is scary to leave my mom in the hands of professional strangers, I remind myself that my mental health is just as important as her physical health. I also have no control over anything and pray for her safety and protection. And we utilize FaceTime and I tell everyone she knows to go visit her that helps too.
Having a morning routine has been a game-changer for my mood and temperament as a caregiver. It is crucial for me to have some time to myself every morning before waking up my mom. My routine consists of movement practices like yoga or Pilates, quiet meditation, and writing a gratitude list. I feel more connected to myself, grounded, and regulated when I have this consist morning routine.
And lastly having regular caregiving breaks are important. Because my free-time is limited I make sure that my caregiving breaks bring me joy and that includes doing my favorite things. Right now, that is going to one of my favorite coffee shops to work and people watch. I need to find things to do in the Fall, summer was so easy because everything is happening.
Are you a caregiver?? I would love to know what you do to prevent burnout. Let me know in the comments.
